I am my 3 kid’s personal driver. The Super Uber. I find that during those forced-to-sit moments, I get to speak to them about life and the wisdom I gathered over my 40 years.
It was during one of these trips back from school where we talked about offence. Where does it hit first? In you head or heart?
I had an spark of insight and I start explaining…
When an incident happens you have options. You can take it into your head, and reason over it. Ask yourself: Is it true? Is this really on me? Does the person love me? If the answer turns out to be no to all three, it goes OUT. The thought/hurt/offense goes out of your head. It’s done.
But some things tend to be more serious and almost sacred. When someone breaks your trust. When a loved one dies. When friends betray or let you down. Those things tend to get into your head and it goes straight down to your heart. And that is okay. The trick is to know when things are worthy of your heart. Worthy to be chewed on, and worked through over time. Most of the hurt we experience is not worthy of our hearts. Yet we take it ‘down’ and allow it to drain our energy and tell us lies.
Whether it is an In and Out, or an In, Down and Out situation, the OUT is never optional. At all times we need to finish off with hurt and offense. It should never stay and develop into unforgiveness. Even if it takes years to digest, it needs to go out. Out of thought. Out of the system. Forgiven and eventually forgotten. Buried offense and hurt make you sick. YOU pay the price and that should never be allowed to happen. Get over it, for you. Forgive, for you. So that you may thrive. All our scars show that we lived. And how beautiful is it when life allows you to help others heal because you’ve been there yourself. The picture is so much bigger than only us.
Be brave. Finish it off. Be free.
Granadilla love,
M